Thursday, March 8, 2012

Bringing Up Bebe

Whitney sent me the book "Bringing Up Bebe" and I am excited to read it soon. Claire will get it next in true Henderson hand-me-around fashion! The book came out last month and has received rave reviews. I feel like so many American parents allow their lives to revolve around their children (vs. integrating their children into their lives and the world around them), and that makes it easy for children to grow up to become self-centered with poor manners. I am trying to make sure that Dan and I avoid doing this with Lauren! I'm hopeful that this book will be a good read for us as we figure things out in this early stage of parenthood. Below is an overview about the book:
The secret behind France's astonishingly well-behaved children.

When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris, she doesn't aspire to become a "French parent." French parenting isn't a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese. Even French parents themselves insist they aren't doing anything special.

Yet, the French children Druckerman knows sleep through the night at two or three months old while those of her American friends take a year or more. French kids eat well-rounded meals that are more likely to include braised leeks than chicken nuggets. And while her American friends spend their visits resolving spats between their kids, her French friends sip coffee while the kids play.

Motherhood itself is a whole different experience in France. There's no role model, as there is in America, for the harried new mom with no life of her own. French mothers assume that even good parents aren't at the constant service of their children and that there's no need to feel guilty about this. They have an easy, calm authority with their kids that Druckerman can only envy.

Of course, French parenting wouldn't be worth talking about if it produced robotic, joyless children. In fact, French kids are just as boisterous, curious, and creative as Americans. They're just far better behaved and more in command of themselves. While some American toddlers are getting Mandarin tutors and preliteracy training, French kids are- by design-toddling around and discovering the world at their own pace.

With a notebook stashed in her diaper bag, Druckerman-a former reporter for The Wall Street Journal-sets out to learn the secrets to raising a society of good little sleepers, gourmet eaters, and reasonably relaxed parents. She discovers that French parents are extremely strict about some things and strikingly permissive about others. And she realizes that to be a different kind of parent, you don't just need a different parenting philosophy. You need a very different view of what a child actually is.
While finding her own firm non, Druckerman discovers that children-including her own-are capable of feats she'd never imagined.

1 comment:

  1. It looks to be an interesting read!
    Thinking back to our French-Canadian friends during our parenting days, my belief holds that the best teacher is and always was example; and Lauren has the best in you and Dan.
    HUGS~ Oma

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